"The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition." - Ryan Holiday
Dear Purpose-Seekers,
Last night, I found myself sitting at my desk surrounded by a mountain of papers—doctoral student dissertations waiting for feedback, life coaching session notes needing follow-up, and a list of property management tasks requiring scheduling. The clock showed 11:37 PM, and my morning alarm was set for 6:30 AM to prepare for a full day of teaching.
In that moment, overwhelm wasn't just a feeling—it was my entire reality.
Perhaps you've been there too. The multiple roles, the competing priorities, the sense that there simply aren't enough hours in the day to honor all your commitments. The weight of expectations—both others' and your own—pressing down heavily.
But here's what I've come to understand: These seasons of overwhelm, when handled consciously, can become our greatest teachers. They aren't just periods to "get through"—they're opportunities for profound clarity about what truly matters in our lives.
Today, I want to share how we can transform overwhelm from an obstacle into a pathway toward deeper purpose.
Recognizing Your Overwhelm Signals
Before we can transform overwhelm, we need to recognize it. Our bodies and minds send clear signals when we're exceeding our capacity, but we've become remarkably skilled at ignoring them.
What are your personal overwhelm indicators?
For me, they include:
- Waking up at 3 AM with racing thoughts about unfinished tasks
- Finding myself unable to focus on conversations because my mind is elsewhere
- Reaching for quick comfort (hello, extra coffee and chocolate) rather than genuine nourishment
- Snapping at loved ones over minor issues
These signals aren't weaknesses—they're valuable data points. When we learn to recognize them early, they become invitations to shift our approach before we reach a breaking point.
The Opportunity Mindset Shift
The key transformation happens when we begin to see overwhelm not as a problem to solve but as information to interpret.
What is your overwhelm trying to teach you?
In my recent overwhelming season, when I paused to listen, I discovered:
- My priorities had become blurred. When everything feels urgent, nothing is truly important. My overwhelm was calling me to rediscover what genuinely matters.
- I was operating from scarcity. My thinking had shifted from "I get to do this work" to "I have to do all this work." This subtle shift had robbed my various roles of their meaning and purpose.
- I'd stopped asking for help. Somewhere along the way, I'd internalized the idea that independence meant handling everything myself—a recipe for burnout and resentment.
Your overwhelming season may be revealing different insights, but I guarantee wisdom awaits when you approach it with curiosity rather than resistance.
Practical Strategies for Transformation
How do we actually make this shift from overwhelm to opportunity? Here are the approaches that have made the most difference in my life and in the lives of my coaching clients:
1. Practice Intentional Time Blocking
Rather than reacting to the loudest demands, I've returned to dedicated time blocking. This means:
- 90-minute deep work sessions for my most important tasks
- Batching similar activities (all student feedback on Tuesdays, property management on Thursday evenings)
- Building in transition time between roles
2. Implement the "One Meaningful Thing" Method
Each morning, I identify the ONE action in each of my key roles that would create the most value. For example:
- Teaching: Providing detailed feedback on one student's methodology chapter
- Coaching: Following up with a specific client about their progress
- Property Management: Addressing one maintenance issue
This approach ensures I'm moving forward with purpose in each area, even when I can't do everything.
3. Create Reflection Rituals
Our busiest seasons often contain our most valuable lessons, but only if we pause to capture them. My current practice includes:
- A 5-minute morning intention-setting journal
- A brief evening review of what I learned today
- A Sunday "lessons and leverage" reflection
These simple practices help me extract wisdom from chaos and maintain perspective when things feel overwhelming.
Your Action Step This Week
Choose just ONE of these approaches to implement this week:
Option 1: Identify Your Overwhelm Signals Take 10 minutes to write down your personal indicators of overwhelm. What physical sensations, thoughts, emotions, or behaviors signal that you're exceeding your capacity? Simply naming these patterns increases your awareness.
Option 2: Practice the Daily Meaningful Thing Each morning, identify the single most meaningful action you could take in each of your key roles or areas of responsibility. Focus on completing these before responding to other demands.
Option 3: End-of-Day Reflection Take 3 minutes at the end of each day to answer: "What did today's challenges teach me about what truly matters? What opportunity for growth is hidden within my current overwhelm?"
A Final Thought
Your busy season isn't a detour from your purposeful path—it's an integral part of the journey. The wisdom you gain through these challenging periods often becomes the foundation for your next level of impact.
As I navigate my own overwhelm, I'm reminded that it's precisely when we feel most stretched that we discover our true capacity. And it's often in our busiest seasons that we finally get clear about what deserves our precious time and energy.
Until next week, I'm walking this path alongside you.
With purpose,
Ernest
P.S. Reply to this email with your biggest insight from implementing one of this week's action steps. I read every response personally, and your experience might be featured (anonymously) in an upcoming newsletter to inspire others.
P.P.S. If you're finding yourself in a season of overwhelm that feels unmanageable, remember that asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. My one-on-one coaching slots for June are filling quickly, but I still have a few openings. Reply with "COACHING" in the subject line if you'd like to explore working together.